1GoldenSun
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I don't mind going a little out of my area of interest to spend time with my husband doing the things he enjoys, and he is the same with me. He'll play Scrabble with me (while watching tv at the same time) and I'll go boating with him (and bring a book). But neither of us would WANT the other to do something they hated.
No way would I go to a KISS concert. Just wouldn't happen. I'd consider it selfish of my husband to expect me to. What kind of person could enjoy an event knowing their spouse is miserable and is only enduring it for their sake?
This reminds me of my in-laws trying to get my son to hug them. He isn't a hugger, and we're ok with that and will not make him hug anyone. I am also not a hugger and have stated that clearly yet they still always go in for the hug, every...single...time. I endure it because I'm a grownup and can't run away behind the couch like my son. But what kind of person WANTS a hug from someone who clearly doesn't want to hug them?
I don't know what you can tell your MIL, OP. I do understand the thing with your husband, because mine sometimes can act somewhat similarly. He'll sometimes get these ideas of something we should all do together as a family, and nothing any of us can say can convince him that none of us really want to do this thing. He thinks if we just do it we'll enjoy it. It's sort of Clark Griswold-esque. He means well, but the result is still that we all have to either face up to him and refuse to go, and deal with his sullen disappointment, or go along with whatever the plan is and almost always have a bad time (occasionally he's right and it's somewhat fun).
I feel for you.
No way would I go to a KISS concert. Just wouldn't happen. I'd consider it selfish of my husband to expect me to. What kind of person could enjoy an event knowing their spouse is miserable and is only enduring it for their sake?
This reminds me of my in-laws trying to get my son to hug them. He isn't a hugger, and we're ok with that and will not make him hug anyone. I am also not a hugger and have stated that clearly yet they still always go in for the hug, every...single...time. I endure it because I'm a grownup and can't run away behind the couch like my son. But what kind of person WANTS a hug from someone who clearly doesn't want to hug them?
I don't know what you can tell your MIL, OP. I do understand the thing with your husband, because mine sometimes can act somewhat similarly. He'll sometimes get these ideas of something we should all do together as a family, and nothing any of us can say can convince him that none of us really want to do this thing. He thinks if we just do it we'll enjoy it. It's sort of Clark Griswold-esque. He means well, but the result is still that we all have to either face up to him and refuse to go, and deal with his sullen disappointment, or go along with whatever the plan is and almost always have a bad time (occasionally he's right and it's somewhat fun).
I feel for you.