Ack!
I had just typed out a long reply & then lost it because I forgot to put my name at the top ::grrrrr::::
Anyhoo, lets see if I can do the quick version.
My son just turned 6 and he was diagnosed with Aspergers Syndrome (AS) in August by a pediatric neurologist after much Dr. hopping. It's very hard to get diagnosed correctly, the biggest problem being it's a fairly new diagnoses and it's often misunderstood by the professionals.
Myself I had a hard time understanding how my son could be considered even remotely Autistic (very smart, very verbal with a huge vocabulary, sweet, funny). I have read everything I can get my hands on, been to several seminars & talked to countless other moms both on message boards & in person and I am comfortable it is the correct diagnoses.
It's hard to explain in a few words but a cute thing I heard one Dr say it's like High Functioning Autism with pizazz. Another simplistic way to look at it, and part of why it's hard to get diagnosed is that AS "borrows" symptoms of several other disorders. If you disected my son's behaviours you would see parts that looked like classic Autism, some ADHD, Obsessive Compulsive disorder and even Tourettes. None of those diagnoses fit though when you look at the whole picture.
And the worst part for me is that when I try to describe some of his behaviours (very picky eating, fixation on objects, inability to focus, and many more..) I hear "Oh, all kids do that". Yes, all kids do some of these things some of the time. My child does all of them, does them often and to the 10th degree. When I get questioned by well meaning friends who aren't around him that often ("but he's always seemed normal to me...") I tell them you may not notice anything when you spend 10 minutes with him but spend a whole day and you won't have any doubts. Heck, if you are there for the right 10 minutes you'll have no doubts, lol!!!
The Oasis site has tons of information and a great message board.
http://www.udel.edu/bkirby/asperger/
Another good site is
www.aspennj.org
Hope that helps!
Holly