I don't have any advice for you on the money side. But I wish you luck. My two are both adopted.
I didn't see the deleted post either, but I'm guessing it took issue with the "unwanted child" comment. That one stuck me a little in the heart too, although I'm sure it wasn't intentional. My children were ALWAYS wanted. I wanted them, and I believe their birth mothers wanted them too. They were not planned pregancies, and their mothers were unable to raise them herself (for whatever reason), but they gave them the best start in lfe they could. "Unwanted child" sounds, well, like something to be shunned. Like I said, I don't think the PP said it to be cruel or anything, but I don't want my kids to be called "unwanted."