"Be careful of the words you use. They become the house you live in!"
"You must learn a new way to think before you can master a new way to be"
“If you believe you aren’t good enough, think of how many chances you’ll have in a week to prove it to yourself.
I listened to chapter about the stories we tell ourselves and how they influence our choices. here are some quotes form it!
"your thoughts drive your choices
Think about it for a second. You’ve finished dinner. You aren’t hungry but you just want something. Ever been there? You think, I just want a little something. Dark chocolate with a spoonful of almond butter is totally better than cookies or ice cream. And, I mean, it’s so small, is it really gonna make a difference? Plus, I’ve been pretty good all day. I’ll just finish off those dark chocolate squares. In fact, eating them tonight just means they won’t be here to tempt me tomorrow! Via your thoughts, you’ve talked yourself into dessert. You’ve effectively convinced yourself. You made a case for it; you negotiated for it and came to the decision by way of your thoughts. Your thoughts drive your choices.
Consider this alternate way of thinking. You aren’t hungry after dinner but you just want a little something. You think, Oooh, that dark chocolate would be so good. But you know, I’m not hungry. Food always tastes better when I’m hungry, and I’m sure that moment will come soon. I’ll wait until then. Or, just for today, no dessert. I just ate. My body doesn’t need fuel right now.
if you fail to change your thoughts, you continue to struggle. For as long as there is a lack of alignment between your thoughts and the choices you want to make, there will be inconsistency and struggle. Every choice is made based on the series of thoughts that precede it"
Let’s look at another example. You’re trying to eat clean but talk yourself into one of the homemade brownies in the break room. After you’ve enjoyed it, you choose a guilt response and think, Well, I blew it! What’s the point in eating clean for the rest of the day? I might as well get these cravings out of my system so I can be super strict tomorrow!
A single brownie turns into a full-blown binge, not because you don’t have control, but because you used the thing over which you have the most control, your thoughts, to make a case for the binge. Every slip becomes a slide, and it all started with a thought you chose about the choice you made. You created the meaning, by way of your thoughts, and that drove your choice.
learn to stop listening to yourself and start talking to yourself.
you have to be willing to let go of the problem and not cling to it simply because it’s familiar or makes you feel justified in your lack of progress. You don’t have to retreat into the familiar story of the problem. "
It's a long chapter I am going to have to finish it off later but I think it's book well worth reading. There isn't much on diet at all, the only small tiny bit example used shows me that me and the author have different views on healthy eating but the focus of the book is entirely on head stuff and it's soild
