Tink&PirateMama
queen mamadalla is what they call me... they being
- Joined
- Jan 25, 2009
Hi!
I'm really confused about something, and I'd love some input thank you!
The background is my DH and I eloped 9 years ago. We had been planning on a destination wedding, but there was SOOOOO much family drama, in the end we just said we'll go back to our eloping plans. And so we married in the snow on christmas eve, and then called everyone on christmas day and said- we're married! No one complained directly to us. And it was completely perfect and we couldn't have planned something more beautiful. But anyway, we had planned the following summer to have a BBQ party- but then I was pregnant and there was even more family drama going on. So again we said, we just want to be happy, so invited a few friends over and left it at that.
I'll also add I'm not a 'dream of a wedding' type of girl. I never expected to marry, never dreamed of a white dress, and am beyond happy with our wedding, and now our VR plans- they are so beyond even my wildest expectations! I'm so excited about everything. And, I will admit that I am very excited to finally get a wedding cake- that sounds so yummy, LOL! My point in saying this, though, is I sorta feel like - well, not bride material- at all!!! So I feel a bit inadequate with making some of these decisions. Oh the poor people that have had to deal with me on the phone - what do you mean there is a filler in the cake- what is that exactly? LOL! I'm not exaggerating! It's very sad!
Anyway, the VR is just going to be us and our two kids. It's too much for most everyone we know financially to come- but I was SHOCKED when a few different people have said to me they think we should have an event when we get home- something to show pictures (one person said I should even where my dress). This seemed.... incredibly unnecessary to me! And really over the top? I could totally see it for a wedding, but for a VR to have an at home party? Now, this would in no way be like a reception, but still- I mean, I figured we'd put up a nice website with a picture slide show, send out nice pictures for christmas cards, show video to friends/family that wanted to see it... and leave it at that. Do you think we should have a little party at the house to share pictures? I would have never even considered the idea, but as I said, multiple people are asking. It seems over the top to me?? I'm not sure I'd even want to do it, but I'm curious if this is even typical?
But i know nothing about this stuff, so I figured you all would be able to tell me!
So what do you think?
Thank you!!!
I'm really confused about something, and I'd love some input thank you!
The background is my DH and I eloped 9 years ago. We had been planning on a destination wedding, but there was SOOOOO much family drama, in the end we just said we'll go back to our eloping plans. And so we married in the snow on christmas eve, and then called everyone on christmas day and said- we're married! No one complained directly to us. And it was completely perfect and we couldn't have planned something more beautiful. But anyway, we had planned the following summer to have a BBQ party- but then I was pregnant and there was even more family drama going on. So again we said, we just want to be happy, so invited a few friends over and left it at that.
I'll also add I'm not a 'dream of a wedding' type of girl. I never expected to marry, never dreamed of a white dress, and am beyond happy with our wedding, and now our VR plans- they are so beyond even my wildest expectations! I'm so excited about everything. And, I will admit that I am very excited to finally get a wedding cake- that sounds so yummy, LOL! My point in saying this, though, is I sorta feel like - well, not bride material- at all!!! So I feel a bit inadequate with making some of these decisions. Oh the poor people that have had to deal with me on the phone - what do you mean there is a filler in the cake- what is that exactly? LOL! I'm not exaggerating! It's very sad!
Anyway, the VR is just going to be us and our two kids. It's too much for most everyone we know financially to come- but I was SHOCKED when a few different people have said to me they think we should have an event when we get home- something to show pictures (one person said I should even where my dress). This seemed.... incredibly unnecessary to me! And really over the top? I could totally see it for a wedding, but for a VR to have an at home party? Now, this would in no way be like a reception, but still- I mean, I figured we'd put up a nice website with a picture slide show, send out nice pictures for christmas cards, show video to friends/family that wanted to see it... and leave it at that. Do you think we should have a little party at the house to share pictures? I would have never even considered the idea, but as I said, multiple people are asking. It seems over the top to me?? I'm not sure I'd even want to do it, but I'm curious if this is even typical?
But i know nothing about this stuff, so I figured you all would be able to tell me!
So what do you think?
Thank you!!!