DH is mean

[disneyjunkie]

Sounds like the OP needs something else to do and worry about besides running her child everywhere and complaining about her husband. Maybe she should get a job!

YUP, she has to much time on her hands.

 

[MickeyMomOfThree]

I wonder how old the OP is.

Sounds like the OP needs something else to do and worry about besides running her child everywhere and complaining about her husband. Maybe she should get a job!

I have no sympathy for her either. My husband has worked from 7:30am to 8:00pm or later at night for the past 19 years! I run 4 kids all over town/work part time and can count the number of vacations we've had on one hand! (Bought DVC so I plan to change that!!!)

She definately needs to count her blessings!

As a SAHM AND a wife since the age of 17 and mom since the age of 19, I could disagree with these comments, but I don't. Not even a little. You both are right on!

 

[Cornhusk]

Not as mean as THIS guy!

Wow, great way to bring a great example to a small problem like this. Sure, the OP is whiny but that didn't elect that kind of cruel response.

You are so good at maps, how about you find a life?

 

[BayouMickey]

Wow, great way to bring a great example to a small problem like this. Sure, the OP is whiny but that didn't elect that kind of cruel response.

You are so good at maps, how about you find a life?

How was that cruel? All he was stating, is that it could've been worse.
And apparently most people agree so I guess your personal attack is null and voided.

 

[kaytieeldr]

Wow, great way to bring a great example to a small problem like this. Sure, the OP is whiny but that didn't elect that kind of cruel response.

You are so good at maps, how about you find a life?

Elect?

You know how, no matter how bad things seem, somebody else's situation is always worse? Well, the thread Robo linked - which, by the way, any one of us would have if he hadn't first - merely demonstrates that not being able to take a Disney vacation the absolute second one wants to go is a dream compared to one's husband walking out on the family (and the family's vacation) to move in with someone young enough to be his daughter.

 

[PIRATEGIRL007]

Wow
Somedays I come here and just laugh all day.
Somedays there are sad posts that make me cry
Somedays I get to relive my Disney memories
and somedays I come here and get more appreciation for my husband and our marriage.

 

[Cornhusk]

How was that cruel? All he was stating, is that it could've been worse.
And apparently most people agree so I guess your personal attack is null and voided.

Elect?

You know how, no matter how bad things seem, somebody else's situation is always worse? Well, the thread Robo linked - which, by the way, any one of us would have if he hadn't first - merely demonstrates that not being able to take a Disney vacation the absolute second one wants to go is a dream compared to one's husband walking out on the family (and the family's vacation) to move in with someone young enough to be his daughter.

Oh please and no one here is guilty of making a frivolous post or complaint? Also, it is pretty biting to use someone else's horrible situation to shame another person. Yeah, let's compare complaining over a trip with someone else's husband running around THAT'LL show her!

 

[MickeyMomOfThree]

Wow
Somedays I come here and just laugh all day.
Somedays there are sad posts that make me cry
Somedays I get to relive my Disney memories
and somedays I come here and get more appreciation for my husband and our marriage.

You are so right. I think lots of us will be giving our DHs a little extra tonight.

 

[Planogirl]

Oh please and no one here is guilty of making a frivolous post or complaint? Also, it is pretty biting to use someone else's horrible situation to shame another person. Yeah, let's compare complaining over a trip with someone else's husband running around THAT'LL show her!

Yes, we have likely all made such comments from time to time. However if I say something like this I expect to be called out on it.

What should we do? The OP made the posts knowing full well that people will respond. Should we be honest or just ignore her posts?

 

[JennyMP03]

All this fighting makes me sad. Let's just hug each other and think about Mickey Mouse.

 

[disneyjunkie]

You are so right. I think lots of us will be giving our DHs a little extra tonight.

Single parent here, but I agree with you

 

[disneyjunkie]

All this fighting makes me sad. Let's just hug each other and think about Mickey Mouse.

How old are you?

 

[JennyMP03]

I was half-kidding, disneyjunkie. Just trying to diffuse some of the tension in the thread.

 

[FlightlessDuck]

I think the last thing OP needs is to get advice on a Disney forum.

You complain about your husband working late, and you having to do all the running around. Is this something you talk to him about? Does he get paid OT for working late and/or on Sundays? If so, why does he feel like he needs all that extra money? If not, then why is he working so late? Too much to get done at work? Stressed about being fired in this bad economy?

Do you work? If not, perhaps your husband feels that doing all the "running around" and vacation planning is part of your role in the relationship.

I think you need to talk with your husband about these things that worry you, and not ask strangers their opinions. We don't know anything about you.

 

[BayouMickey]

Oh please and no one here is guilty of making a frivolous post or complaint? Also, it is pretty biting to use someone else's horrible situation to shame another person. Yeah, let's compare complaining over a trip with someone else's husband running around THAT'LL show her!

If both OP's didn't want people to comment on their situations, then they shouldn't have spilled their dirty laundry on a public forum...

 

[itchin2go]

Elect?

You know how, no matter how bad things seem, somebody else's situation is always worse? Well, the thread Robo linked - which, by the way, any one of us would have if he hadn't first - merely demonstrates that not being able to take a Disney vacation the absolute second one wants to go is a dream compared to one's husband walking out on the family (and the family's vacation) to move in with someone young enough to be his daughter.

I think he meant "elicit".

 

[Dan Murphy]

Wow, great way to bring a great example to a small problem like this. Sure, the OP is whiny but that didn't elect that kind of cruel response.......

I agree. I do not normally see those posts, but quoted here, yes. Not a nice one, for sure.

 

[Robo]

I normally just let these kind of things die of their own weakness, but I'll just say this.

On the Theme Parks board, out-of-the-blue, appeared two
"mean husband, what can I do?" threads.

I just thought it was strange that both should appear at about the same time, when usually (on Theme Parks, anyway) there are few of this specific kind.

The second thread posted (this thread) was provocatively titled "HS is Mean" and (having just read the other "husband" thread) I thought that it was a logical (obvious, actually) comparison to say that there ARE plenty of (what most would consider) "mean husbands" out there, one of whom was currently being discussed on the very same forum, at that very same time.

And, the current (at that time) thread that I linked to was obviously a genuinely "mean" (actually worse) husband,
and, that calling a guy who can't fulfill a vacation desire on-demand might not be such a "mean husband" after all.

To infer something else more evil into my original 6 word response, has to lie in the mind of the beholder.

 

[jngwright]

Wow, great way to bring a great example to a small problem like this. Sure, the OP is whiny but that didn't elect that kind of cruel response.

You are so good at maps, how about you find a life?

I would like to take this opportunity to defend Robo,his response, and his maps.(Not that he needs me to do so...) I felt his response was right on. And, he has helped thousands of people on here, and that, to me is a good definition of "a life"

 

[kaytieeldr]

To infer something else more evil into my original 6 word response, has to lie in the mind of the beholder.

Well, but that's what infer is, Robo - guess, speculate, surmise, draw a conclusion on the part of the reader/listener that may or may not have been the intent of the writer/speaker.