Hmmm... I don't think I'd agree that the final say should lie with Miguel...someone she married late in life, especially when she's so close to her kids. My mom has made it very clear that her 3 kids would be the ones to make those type of decisions even though she and my step-father have been married since I was 12. I'll also say I really wouldn't be comfortable with him having the final say (nothing against him, but she's our mom.)Here’s the thing though: it sounds like everyone in your situation is on the same page. It’s pretty awful of Randall to go behind his siblings’ (and Miguel’s!!! Rebecca has a husband!!!) backs and drop a GIGANTIC guilt bomb on Rebecca to manipulate her into saying yes.
With my dad’s dementia, my sister and I defer to my mom because we both live out of state and my mom is my dad’s primary caregiver. If she needs our backup, we give it to her. I know all the Pearsons are dismissive of Miguel, and Randall justified it to himself as “he missed this for months,” but the bottom line is Miguel should be the one who has the final say. I bet none of the Big 3 ever even considered his opinion.
Agree wholeheartedly. Sterling is portraying a deeply flawed, multi-layered character extremely well, but boy is Randall a total jerk right now. I wonder if he even talked through any of it with Beth. I feel like Beth would tell him to step back from the situation and let his mother be in control of what she has left.
On other hand I wouldn't find it as odd and assume that my step-mom probably would have the "final say" over my dads care. although I know she would consult all of us etc. - My mom was definitely the one who raised us fulltime though, so we're def. closer to my mom. I guess it just really depends on the relationships.