MakiraMarlena
It's a big black fish to you
- Joined
- Mar 28, 2005
She wasn't picking on you. She cancelled ALL the guests. maybe she really did not think her daughter could handle it.
I agree whole heartedly. Mom should have been honest with you. If you friends for 25 years, I think you would have understood.I agree and disagree. If that is what the daughter wanted to for her birthday that's fine but your friend should have been honest with the reasoning.
I think it's a little odd that your friend planned a birthday dinner party for her adult daughter and invited her OWN friend (or friends). If it was a family party, it would make a little more sense. But I think your friend may have overstepped and set the stage for an uncomfortable, too large production, especially, knowing her daughter is challenged with anxiety. Please understand how difficult mental illness is. A lot of "high-functioning" people may have the same outward appearances as yourself. But inside, they may be just barely holding it together. If this young woman really wanted a dinner party with friends, at 27, I think she would be planning it herself with her OWN friends. I don't blame her for canceling, even on short notice. Your friend may have been trying really hard (with good intentions) to make this work up until the last minute. The issue really is with the dynamic between your friend and her daughter. I wouldn't take it personally.
Hey, pretty sure this is a zombie thread....it's from 2015 and people haven't really commented on it for awhile I think.
In the so-called "old" days, it was considered rude to discuss a social engagement unless you knew that everyone in the conversation had also been invited. Maybe we need to revive that rule.My DD16 no longer wants to do anything with anyone because of people feeling left out/hurt feelings! She has anxiety, and in this world of no privacy, you cannot do anything without it being communicated to a zillion people and people ending up mad at her for not being invited: perhaps this happened here, and the daughter just wanted to forget about it!
I invited 4 girls to go to the NYC ballet with us. I didn't even tell DD. We ate before we went....IT BECAME A RIDICULOUS MESS because others found out and felt excluded! I had actually bought 10 tickets, but we used 6...I could easily have brought more.
Don't take it personally. Downtown Disney does not require special admittance....If you want to go, go!