The day my husband died was 2 years ago this August. It was the most bizarre day ever. Instead of the usual peace of the hospice they were holding their Summer fete, so the grounds were full of people, noise, smells of a cook out, and Elvis Presley being played over a loud speaker.
I am certain that DH did not want my daughter Becky present when he actually died, because she told him that she was going outside to fetch him a chocolate cake (even though he was not awake or had eaten anything for days) and he chose that exact time to pass away. I was with her, and they sent a message for us to return quickly which we did, and maybe made it with seconds to spare or maybe didn't I'm not sure to be honest.
Anyway at least his pain and suffering was over, and at the end he had no quality of life left. The cancer had taken it all.
Becky still regrets leaving her dad, but I'm convinced it's what he wanted. I'm not so much haunted by how Roger left us as things I never said to him, and will never now get the chance. That eats me up.
I am certain that DH did not want my daughter Becky present when he actually died, because she told him that she was going outside to fetch him a chocolate cake (even though he was not awake or had eaten anything for days) and he chose that exact time to pass away. I was with her, and they sent a message for us to return quickly which we did, and maybe made it with seconds to spare or maybe didn't I'm not sure to be honest.
Anyway at least his pain and suffering was over, and at the end he had no quality of life left. The cancer had taken it all.
Becky still regrets leaving her dad, but I'm convinced it's what he wanted. I'm not so much haunted by how Roger left us as things I never said to him, and will never now get the chance. That eats me up.