I have frequently noted that the title of this board seemed a lot less inclusive than the conversations that happened on it.
As a bi woman, I'm used to being ignored by titles and have gotten used to ignoring them myself. That doesn't mean that people cannot get hurt by being excluded.
I do think that being bi makes my disney experience different from a lesbian couple--just like it makes my experience of life different. But, it's tough to put a precise finger on those differences. They're about the way people make assumptions that exclude half of yourself; they're about the details that you are interested in, the things you want to do and or will notice; they're about whether clubs will actually feel welcoming; etc.
I have known trans people who pass easily and I have known trans people who really only pass with people who know and love them. I think that invisible_children07 has brought up a specific need for tolerance and safe space that should be listened to and respected.
It may seem like a title doesn't really matter. But, he has told us that it matters for him. Therefore, if this is really to be a safe space on the inside, we need to be careful not to discount peoples' experiences. Even if there is nothing that we can do and even if we disagree, I think it is still important to frame our opinions as our own rather than as universals.
I also understand the issue with making the title understandable to the general public using these boards, many of whom wouldn't understand GLBTQ. And, history always matters. At the time this forum was created it was replacing a crazily long thread that had been the only safe space. I'm sure it was important for the title to be transparent to others.
Perhaps we have grown up enough to be able to rename the forum. Perhaps we aren't ready.
Either way, invisible_children07 (and the others who haven't yet spoken up), I'm sorry that you've been hurt.
When I try to think of a title I get stuck in the need to keep it short, transparent and inclusive. It seems like an impossible task. I came up with:
"Queer (GLBTQ) at Disney"
But
- I HATE being called "queer"--I don't think there's anything abnormal about me!!!
- I'm not convinced that the average public will understand that reference.
So, then I went to:
"Gay & Lesbian at Disney (GLBTQ Experiences)"
- A bit too long and not quite as inclusive as invisible_children07 was suggesting, but, the best I can do.