Lack of travel to another country for a little while should not bring anyone to their "breaking" point. Talk about 1st world problems.
disagree. I live with my mom in Ireland. My sister, her husband and my 5 year old niece live in England. My mom last saw them in February, they were supposed to come to Ireland for Christmas, but thats now cancelled. We have no idea when we will be allowed to travel.
My next door neighbour, her son and his family live in Pennsylvania, USA. She usually spends the summer with them. Again she has no idea when she will see her son and grand kids.
One of my friends lives in LA. She was due to visit her family in Ireland in April, flights cancelled. Her mom is almost 80 , and my friend has no idea when she will see her mom again.
Travel to another country is not just about going to a theme park or a beach!! Families are at breaking point due to international travel bans.
The poster I was referring to (who talked about "breaking point") was specifically talking about vacation travel.
While I 100% see where you are coming from, I have to respectfully disagree. I think we need to maybe find other ways to find escape or manage our mental health right now.
I work in health care and I can't help but feel that whatever holiday you might take is not worth your life or the lives of your loved ones and whoever you might come into contact with. Yes, you may not get COVID. You may get COVID and be fine. Or you may get COVID and despite all precautions and good health, it could kill you. People often like to bring up that you could get killed crossing a street too, and yes, that's true. However, do you cross at a crosswalk in a safe situation? Or do you dash out in the middle of the street during rush hour? We're currently in the middle of a pandemic. It is rush hour. And every time you do one of these things you are running out into the middle of the street.
Just because we have to stay home and take precautions doesn't mean we can't find an escape or take time for ourselves in a safer way. I think we would all be in better mental health situations if, instead of focusing on all the things we can't do, focused on better ways to safely look after ourselves and give ourselves a mental break.
I'm a regular traveler myself, I usually take 2-3 vacations a year to often far flung places, and giving that up has been hard. But I keep reminding myself that this is not forever. This is a period of time that one day we will look back on as being so short in the span of our lives, and if anything I can do now to make sure as many people make it through COVID as I can, I feel like that's my social responsibility.
How about taking some time off and just relaxing at home? Do you have a trusted family member or friend who is part of your safe circle who can watch your kids for a few days while you relax? Or is there maybe time while they are at school where you can take the day off and just invest in your own well being? You could learn to meditate or paint or take time for yourself in some way in which you find value.
I recently took five days off, gave myself some at home fancy facials, painted, went for long walks in the woods and played with my dog. I also ordered take out every day to give myself a break from cooking and it still came in with a much smaller price tag than my vacations usually do. I also tried something new... I tried telephone counselling. Now I've never been a counselling type of person, but it really helped to be able to speak to someone who wasn't a close friend and was a professional and really unload.
I know COVID is hard on everyone and we're all just doing our best, but we've still got a ways to go yet and every additional case just extends the restrictions that are already weighing so heavily on so many people.
While I agree 100% I also feel like I’m at my breaking point. I’m sure I’m not the only one who is at that point. What is “ essential “ for one may not be for another. I know when there was a nail salon outbreak people were damn right cruel to those that went.
“ Holidays “ For me are a source of escape as a single mom .
I just think no one knows what someone is going through , what their breaking point is it what they need at that moment to survive. .. kinda the same as all the Halloween drama . I’m not judging but not participating.
Lack of travel to another country for a little while should not bring anyone to their "breaking" point. Talk about 1st world problems.
Hugs to you TammyLynn. I get it.
I don't think its for us to decide what someone's breaking point should me. My mom used to always say " there but for the grace of God go I" and let us know we don't know what's going on behind the scenes in other people's lives. For some, not meeting the regular coffee group at tims might be theirs. While covid might not be affecting me as much in our area with zero cases right now, and teenagers I don't have to homeschool, I recognize its probably hell for others rn.Lack of travel to another country for a little while should not bring anyone to their "breaking" point. Talk about 1st world problems.
I don't think its for us to decide what someone's breaking point should me. My mom used to always say " there but for the grace of God go I" and let us know we don't know what's going on behind the scenes in other people's lives. For some, not meeting the regular coffee group at tims might be theirs. While covid might not be affecting me as much in our area with zero cases right now, and teenagers I don't have to homeschool, I recognize its probably hell for others rn.
Personally getting out of the country is the best way for me to relax. Taking holidays at home is not a holiday as I'm still accessible to family, my boss, etc. I never had the luxury of family to watch my kids when they were little, and we were too poor to pay a babysitter. Hard to switch off with other friends because of hubby's shift work and taking care of my mother. But the friends who had parents that baby say for free, took them whole weekends, I never really liked their "take a day for you" comments.
Its hard enough being a mom, in covid, never mind a single parent, we don't need people making us feel like our feeelings aren't justified because it might not seem a big deal for us.
This. Likely the reason most of us joined the DIS Boards and watch the show.I think having something to be excited about and plan for and dream about was a much larger benefit to our mental health than most of us even realized. I think there are some who needed that promise of escape to slog through another hard stretch of time ( whatever that may be) and it’s totally understandable.