This seems like a question people post here a lot! The information on Disney’s website is purposefully very vague, but the costs of a Disney wedding can vary so widely — from an elopement for two to a elegant multi-day affair for two hundred — that simply knowing other couples’ totals for their day may not be very relevant to you. Many couples also feel awkward talking about how expensive their wedding was, especially on a public forum like this.
Your best resource for answering that very first “can we afford this?” question is an e-book called Carrie Hayward’s Fairy Tale Weddings Guide, which you can buy at fairytaleweddingsguide.com. You might have heard people tell you about it before, but it really is the definitive “bible” for weddings at Walt Disney World (some people call it the “passporter” from back when it was published by a different company). It is not very expensive and it really is worth every penny. Crucially, it is also updated for Disney’s frequent price changes (another reason simply knowing another couples’ final total might not help you much), and once you buy the e-book you can get any updates for free.
The e-book is the single best tool for estimating the cost of *your* Disney wedding, not just seeing the cost of someone else’s. If you really do want to know people’s exact expenses, sometimes couples are more willing to share those nitty-gritty details on somewhat more private forums, like the Disney bride Facebook groups. Some people might here, too, but it can be a question people feel awkward talking about with strangers.