Welcome to disABILITIES!
What suggestions do you have in general?
First, here's a
link for you to the disabilities FAQs page from the official Disney site. They have information about things like whether a wheelchair can be loaded right onto a ride or not.
Other than that, a lot depends on what limitations your son has - like is he able to get out of the wheelchair (either walk a few steps or be lifted)? What sorts of things does he enjoy? Not enjoy?
Specifically, what park hotels in the moderate range would best suit our needs (for 5 adults)?
I'm sure you will get some suggestions from DIS posters.
Here's the phone number for WDW Resort Special Reservations:
(407) 939-7807
(407) 939-7670 [TTY]
They can help with specific information and making your reservations.
All the resorts have wheelchair accessible rooms with roll in shower. You can request an accessible room with a connecting room that way (if you open the connecting door) you would have one large space for your group to stay in.
Another possibility would be a DVC villa. The one bedroom units have a living room (with a sleeper sofa), a kitchen, laundry facilities in the room. The only problem for your group would be sleeping arrangements, since besides the sofa bed, there is only a king bed in the master bedroom. A two bedroom unit would give you all that, plus a second bathrrom and a 2nd bedroom with either 2 queen beds (at OKW) or a queen bed and queen sleeper sofa. Renting thru a DVC member (you can get more info on the DVC Boards) is less expensive than going thru Disney. You may find though that the extra cost is worth it to have the extra space, kitchen and laundry in the room.
Would we be better off making reservations for everything, including meals, transportation, hotel, etc?
if you are asking about packages, they are usually more expensive than buying the "pieces" separately, but some people prefer them because it's easier. A travelagency (like
Dreams Unlimited, the affiliate of this site) can help you make arrangements if you want more help.
Since we are paying for the daycare provider, what discounts would be available in June?
I'm not the expert on that, but I do know that there are no discounts for disabilities.
Are there facilities to change a diaper for an "adult"?
if he needs to lie down, your best bet is First Aid. There is one in each park and they have padded, vinyl covered, bed height cots. Those are in cubicles with privacy curtains. If he can stand up, there are Companion Restrooms in each park (basically large single stall bathrooms tha you can pull a wheelchair into). Theose have stainless steel changing "shelves", but they are about waist height for me (5'7") and (my best guess) is that they are about 4 feet long.