tosha27
Mouseketeer
- Joined
- May 17, 2010
No. It is all just speculation on the original poster's part as to whether the mother wants gifts or not.
Personally, I would NOT want gifts from my ex's vacations. Of course, he never took our son on vacation, so I never had to worry about it (he once told me kids of divorce should not be allowed to have fun). But if he had, I would not want anything. My husband and I take our kids on vacation quite a bit (Disney just three times in the 13 years we have been together - we susually do Chicago, Gettysburg, etc.) My son asked once to get something for his dad. I think he was about 7. We let him pick something and WE paid for it.
My ex kidnapped my son in 2005. I didn't know where he was for a week and a half. He also beat the crap out of him two summer ago. My son now has a restraining order against his father until he turns 18 (this August). I couldn't be more disgusted by a person than I am with my ex. However, if my son wanted to get something for his dad while we were on vacation, I would help him find something and pay for it.
Kids should not be punished for the mistakes their parents have made in their lives.
I agree.
Hmm, Do we have the same ex? My son also has a no contact order against his father who abused him. My heart goes out to you, I can't imagine how you were feeling when your son was kidnapped. My ex threatened to kidnap both of my children (one of them is not his) and even called our son's school and made these threats. Thankfully he did not carry through. Anyhow, my son has not seen or spoken to his father since those incidents in 2008 and like you, I could not be more disgusted with him, but if for some reason my son wanted to buy a gift or card for his father, myself or my husband (his stepfather) would grit our teeth and help him find and purchase something.