We generally agree on financial goals, etc. My DH doesn't handle money, much, but that's mostly because I have money anxiety, so I feel better handling it. Naturally, he has full access to both our money and the records (checkbook, statements, etc.)
It's kind of funny, though. I grew up what I'd call lower middle class--we owned a house, but not a nice one. We'd run out of food. If my dad went on strike, we'd go on food stamps. From age 12 or so, I paid for my own clothes and expenses--including contributing towards my HS tuition (Catholic school) starting when I was 16, paid for all my own college. Hence the money anxiety. OTOH, DH grew up in the richest town in MA. His dad held 3 engineering degrees, his mom was a teacher. But since the town was so rich, he was in the bottom 10%, so he felt "poor". His parents were also quite thrifty (fixed their own cars, shopped at K-Mart, etc.). And I get that he had much less material things than his classmates. But, you should hear his childhood complaints--"Everyone else got to travel both Feb. and April breaks, we only went away for one!" or, "Everyone else got a car for their 16th birthday, I wasn't bought a car until I turned 21!" Boo-frickin'-hoo! His dad didn't even fill out the financial aid forms for college--he didn't want anyone knowing how much he made, he just paid full freight.
On the good side, although our definitions of "poor" were vastly different, we're on the same page in terms of what our financial priorities are.