my ex and I were only together a year. To the day. On our anniversary he broke up with me but was pretty adamant about "still being friends." I was unbelievably hurt. No, we hadn't been together that long, but we had been starting to discuss what a future together might hold. So I told him I couldn't do it. Couldn't be his friend. About three months later I thought maybe I could try to be his friend. Well one thing lead to another and next thing I knew I was pregnant. I was already 26 with a graduate degree and a good job, so it wasn't the major derailment it could have been. But it was still a shock. He asked me what I wanted to do. I knew I wanted to keep the baby, and I asked if he would consider getting back together. His response? "Let me ask the girl I'm seeing right now what she thinks." Before the shock of that statement had even worn off he's contacted this girl and gotten a response, "she's says she'll wait as long as I need her to, so okay." Nope. No way. Nevermind. I'll just do this myself. He only spoke to me twice while I was pregnant. I let him know when I went to the hospital to have my daughter, but he said he wouldn't come as he was afraid my family "might kill him" (to be fair, we're REALLY southern....someone might have tried lol). He visited us a grand total of three times the first month of my daughter's life. During which time I learned that he never told his family I was pregnant, only that I had had his baby AFTER the fact. That he had quit two jobs without finding a new one first so he was unemployed, and had been evicted from his apartment, so was living in his parents' attic. We're talking full on man-child behavior here. I told him maybe he should work on himself for a while, and contact me again when he had grown up a bit and gotten things sorted out. That was December of 2011 & we haven't heard a peep from him (or any member of his family) since. But we do okay. Most of my family is in the same city as me and they not only help me out with her when I need it, but they support all my decisions fully. Not going to lie. I LIKE not having to co-parent, or take anyone else's opinions into account. We're good & I wouldn't have our lives any other way.