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Okay, all caught up now Shame the leash business didn't work. What kind of toys does she have? Have you tried a laser pointer or "Da Bird": https://www.amazon.com/GoCat-Cat-Feather-Assorted-Colors/dp/B000F9JJJE
These oftentimes work for lazier cats (mine is the same way and loves both of these). I stand by my thoughts on not getting another cat. Unless they come up together as kittens bringing a new cat into your home can be VERY stressful for all involved and I truly don't think it will solve the problems you're facing.
As stated in a previous post I did have 2 cats at once and they were not brought up together.
One was 11 years old when the 3 month old kitten came into her life.
I've tried laser pointers and several other battery operated toys.
She much prefers personal interaction making those a big waste of my money.
I have a number toys ranging from furry mice that rattle to a wand that has a wire and very weird feeling mouse on it. That is definitely her favorite.
I have 3 cats and I love them to death one is sick now ( not eating) and I am at wits end might start my own post after reading some helpful answers here.
Anyhoo I agree with PP I have watched Jackson and I agree with putting some shelves on the wall. Cats need a safe place near you to watch the action for sure.
You mentioned the kids coming is it possible they stress the cat?
Maybe crying? And for sure as they get older if cat scared of the kids will look to escape.
My cats are indoors. One actually escaped for 4 days....and she sickly.. nasal problems.....thought she never find way home. Posters everywhere.... 4th day neighbor 5 houses down says she think she under her deck.. her dog barking and she went out to look. Mind u I am surrounded by dogs and was worried about that also. Anyhoo she was there and even tho I thought she has a miserable 4 days Rain d and all... she is only one to want to bolt now at the door.
Personally I am freaked by bugs, possible fleas and the lovely “presents” cats bring home ugh! So I ignore her cries at door but honestly they weren’t that bad but she always the one to look to go out with door open.
Sorry I’m rambling.
Put some shelves up for the cat on the walls. Try and play with her interactive toy when she cry and then try and sit with her if she like that. Although careful my cat sits at the cat toy drawer and cries LOL.
Lastly I would try and get another cat. But I understand more than anyone cat fighting in House is unbearable.
Try and find younger docile cat that the shelter will let u return if dosemt work out within a few weeks.
I wish u all the luck it sounds like u love your cat!
Kerri
I mean she was spayed so I'm not sure how she could be going through heat anymore.
You just never know until you try it. She seems pretty social, so maybe it will work. When I took in my cat's daughter (gone seven years) I figured she would have a problem because she is the dominant cat in the house. But...I stuck with it and it took a year before she left the new girl alone. Now they even sleep near each other, but they are not friends, they just tolerate each other. Sometimes the new girl will get up and leave when she comes over and lays next to her. There is definitely a pecking order among cats. Think about her personality. This may give you some insight. Keep us updated.I think that the main reason I think a playmate may help her is because she is very playful but not in the "usual" way.
I'm her "cat mom" and its almost as though she wants me to play like a cat which I cannot do.
Like when she has gone out she wants me to run after her.
Problem is then she'll go into a bush or tree or neighbors yard or my personal favorite the roof and expect me to come.
She looks back at me like come on come on come on!!!
I wonder if that's how she wants me to bplay with her inside too but the spaces she is trying to have me go are so small that she realizes I can't fit or something lol.
For a week now she wants me to play in the basement with her probably because its "her play room" when she is down there at night but again she wants me to go places I can't go like behind some chairs we have down there.
With this new info does anyone think a playmate could help? Or still too risky to find out?
I think that the main reason I think a playmate may help her is because she is very playful but not in the "usual" way.
I'm her "cat mom" and its almost as though she wants me to play like a cat which I cannot do.
With this new info does anyone think a playmate could help? Or still too risky to find out?
Is there a fostering program where the OP lives? This may be a good idea but then again, sometimes you have to put in the time to let things sort out and it may take awhile. Just so hard to predict. By the way....I love the Jalapeno Pretzels!You could try fostering another cat ... if the two seem to get along really well, then you adopt that cat, if they hate each other, it will only be for a limited time.
I would love to know where to find this, my google skills are rusty and I can't find it. I would appreciate any guidance - both of our kitties would LOVE this.
I think she is referring to what you said in your original post. You said "after she went into heat for the first time (yes she is fixed)" It sounded like that she was fixed and then went into heat. I took it to mean that she had one heat cycle before she was spayed but I think that sonnyjane thought you were saying that she went into heat after being spayed. Thus sonnyjane suggested you not get a male since she is still experiencing heat after being spayed. Edited to add: I see this was already addressed earlier in the thread. I guess I missed a page.Ok thank you for clarifying your post.
I'm just still unclear about what symptoms of heat my cat is displaying.
OP is not open to the idea of shelves.Those who follow Jackson Galaxy will know I am channeling him here: cats want to be in places of social significance (meaning with their people.) You have said you can't put a cat tree anywhere but in the basement, but have you considered installing some shelves in the main living area of your home? That way, kitty can still have a perch and be with the people. If you're not a DIY type, there's some cool stuff that can be found on places like Etsy that are decorative and functional.
I've seen similar enclosures googling Pet Fencing. I'm actually looking for fencing to fence in an area for my cats when I take them camping with me this summer. We are venturing out, now that I'm retired and I want to bring my cats with me. So I'm putting a cat door in the camper and will fence in an area around my site so they can go outside but be contained. I'm looking at Omlet fencing. This may also be an option for you, if she is not to determined to get out. This fencing is used for chickens and it looks pretty good.I would love to know where to find this, my google skills are rusty and I can't find it. I would appreciate any guidance - both of our kitties would LOVE this.
OP is not open to the idea of shelves.
OMG....my heart was ripped out reading about this! Can u imagine that kind of life? My cat is sitting on me right now, sucking up my heat and posting on this board with me....LOL. I love my pets, they are like my children. Some people have no clue.The little perches that hooked onto our window sills worked well for us. 25 years later, my husband is still not happy about the Velcro tape things that are still stuck to my woodwork, LOL!!! But my kitties were really happy with their lookout perches, and used them daily, following the sun or if I was outside, me throughout the day.
Frankly, I cannot understand bringing a per into the home and then refusing to compromise in order to reach an acceptable arrangement. This comment is not about the OP. I just have been following a thread on FB and the OP has a bird and a dog. They brought a kitten into the home, and have kept the poor itty bitty cooped up in a room to keep her away from the bird. Now Mom and Dad want to start using the wood stove, apparently in that room, and they cannot come up with a plan for the kitten. Mom and Dad do not wnat her roaming, do not want her in their room, do not want her approaching the bird, on and on and on....and if her FB friends cannot come up with a solution the baby will be rehomed, which the poster does not want to do. So far no one has been able to manage a compromise that will work in this house. Honestly, I would go get that kittie myself if she was on the same side of the Country I am on. Who does this? Bring a kitten in and then lock her up in a room alone?