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Nope. Office is open. I don’t work Mondays, but everyone else does!oh yea to another posters question, what's going on Monday morning? Is the office closed?
Nope. Office is open. I don’t work Mondays, but everyone else does!oh yea to another posters question, what's going on Monday morning? Is the office closed?
My mistake. One week and a dayI don't understand the concern for Monday work time. According to the OP, Coworker A gets married on Saturday. B gets married a week later (so a Saturday). A 2.5 hour drive to me means driving up Saturday, going to the wedding, spending the night and driving home Sunday. Why does it affect Monday?
As far as the question in the OP, I think it's ok to give slightly more to A. I would probably not have agreed to go 2.5 hours with an overnight stay for a coworker, unless we seriously "clicked" and were BFs.
I'm in agreement that your gift should be based on your relationship to the couple, not on how much the wedding is costing them. I know "tradition" says your gift should at least cover your plate as rule of thumb, but in actuality you are just giving a gift to the couple - not reimbursing them for your food expenses. Give what you feel is appropriate for your relationship with each.
Only if "tradition" = DISboards. Honestly, I never heard of "covering your plate" until I read about it on these boards.
You're right. I missed it. Thank you.You missed the bolded part. The 2nd coworker’s wedding is on Sunday evening. Thus staying over Sunday night. How would you drive 2.5 hours & get to work on time on Monday morning?
Why is she a bridezilla because she is having a fancy wedding? 99% of weddings I’ve been to have been pretty lavish, are all brides in the NYC area bridezillas? Heck my grandparents had a cocktail hour and plated dinner, they’d be over 100 years old if still alive.Only if "tradition" = DISboards. Honestly, I never heard of "covering your plate" until I read about it on these boards.
I love weddings. I go to as many as I can afford to attend (to which I'm invited, of course). I give gifts based on my relationship with the couple, not on their wants/needs or the cost/size of the party, and on what my budget can afford. I get that where you work is a small office, but if the brides decide to compare gifts (and my guess is that it'd be bridezilla who brings it up), oh well. If she wants to be insulted, so be it. I personally would be insulted that she chose to discuss the monetary value of my gift- now THAT's tacky and rude!
Probably a dumb question, but how do guest knows how much a plate in a wedding costs?
Cover your plate has been a thing here for decades. Plus, you try to keep it even, if possible, my mom wrote down what family gave me, as did her mother, I don’t know if it’s an Irish thing or a regional thing (I’m thinking region, as this was the norm for my Italian friends).The 'cover your plate' idea is a marketing ploy made up by wedding planners etc and the wedding industry to justify the thousands and thousands of $$ ridiculously spent on a wedding.
No where is it in the rules of etiquette and common courtesy.
I would give an appropriate size (your call) gift to girl B having the big wedding, I would wish her well afterall.
The gift for the girl A is based on your call too; being that she is closer I would gift more.
JMHO.
You just know if it is in such and such venue its 150ish a plate- if its in knights of Columbus type place it is way less.