Yes. In fact I met the PILs for the first time w/o the ex being present; nice people.For the first time ny mil wants to see me alone with out dh anyone ever visited with their mil with out there dh
Yes. In fact I met the PILs for the first time w/o the ex being present; nice people.For the first time ny mil wants to see me alone with out dh anyone ever visited with their mil with out there dh
Everyone has different relationships with their MIL, all that matters is what your relationship is like with your MIL.
If you have rarely visited with her in 13 years, it makes sense that you would be uncomfortable about her wanting to meet with you without your DH. She should have told you why she wants to meet with you so you would be ready for whatever she wants to discuss. Since she didn't I certainly understand why you are worried and uncomfortable. If I had an in-law I rarely interact with want to meet with me alone I'd be very suspicious.
If it were me I would either tell her I'd like for DH to come saying something like "he would like to visit with you too" and then maybe if it's about him she might go ahead and tell you. OR is there a family member of yours or a friend that you can bring along? This way you might be more comfortable or if something negative is said you have someone else there to support you.
If you are getting that impression from me I am not viewing this as a chore at all, I have come along way since starting my 2ed chapter in life however some situations still make me nervous , I am nervous creature period but I always push myself it makes life more fun in the long runI used to visit my in-laws without DH often when he was working night shift.
I do things now with my DIL. Hope she doesn’t look on it as a chore.
If that’s the case, then I think you need to respect your husband’s feelings about the situation first and foremost. She shouldn’t, after 13 years of otherwise showing no interest in building a relationship with you, now be able to use you as a work around to gain access and information about her son’s life against his wishes. They need to work out their own issues between themselves without putting you in the middle.Yes i asked her because the language was weird so she cleared it up, she understands that dh wants nothing to do with her, I did not say that she iscjust smart but wsnts to meet with me just to catch up, in retrospect its no diffrent then my dh spending time with my dad alone
If you are getting that impression from me I am not viewing this as a chore at all, I have come along way since starting my 2ed chapter in life however some situations still make me nervous , I am nervous creature period but I always push myself it makes life more fun in the long run
If that’s the case, then I think you need to respect your husband’s feelings about the situation first and foremost. She shouldn’t, after 13 years of otherwise showing no interest in building a relationship with you, now be able to use you as a work around to gain access and information about her son’s life against his wishes. They need to work out their own issues between themselves without putting you in the middle.
I would rather have a tooth pulled.
Respectfully disagreeing.Are you saying that your husband really wants nothing to do with his mother? If that is how he feels, then you need to respect him on that. There has to be something going on there. Why would that be unless there were some reason why? Whether good or bad, or even if things are like complex, you have to respect your husband first. Ask yourself, and even ask him, how would he feel if you were to talk with his mother. This is where you will find your answer. Not on a Disney website. Because, every situation like this in a family will be very different for each family. If I had a broken relationship from my mother or sister or whoever I know that I would be very upset if they went behind my back to my husband and my husband went along with it.
Maybe it is easy to hope that this is a good thing. Maybe a friendly situation for you. But I don't think so. I do hope that have a lot more friends and activities as time goes on!
Yes i asked her because the language was weird so she cleared it up, she understands that dh wants nothing to do with her, I did not say that she is just smart but wants to meet with me just to catch up, in retrospect its no diffrent then my dh spending time with my dad alone