My kids are still really little. But at this point I don’t think I’d expect them to pay until they were financially independent. It would also depend on how much I wanted them to come with us. I spent my 20s barely being able to pay my bills, so expensive vacations were not in the cards. If my kids get into a similar situation I wouldn’t expect them to pay and if we really wanted them to come, we would pay.
I haven’t done any cruises with my parents, but as an adult they still pay for things on family vacations. Generally if we all go somewhere they rent a house and pay for it. DH and I will then buy groceries and pay for one or two dinners out.
To be honest, I would not expect a 19 year old to pay for much. To me that’s still pretty much a kid and part time jobs don’t usually pay well. As long as I was in a financial position to do so, I’d pay and encourage my kid to save as much of her earnings as possible.
Minimum wage in AZ is 10 dollars an hour. I joke with them and tell them when they get their first job the can pay their cruise fare. I think a lot of parents continue to pay for the occasional vacation because one they have the means and two they want to take a big family vacation and that’s the only way to get everyone onboard.I guess it depends where you live. Here in Quebec (Canada) the minimum wage is 12$. My husband took a part time job on top of his normal job just "to keep busy" and decided to use that money for vacations. He does thursday and friday nights, 8 hours a week. He paid off his part of our last cruise within two months!
I feel the same way about vacations. To be honest I can't wait until they have part time jobs to pay for all their electronics.Our son is a junior in college, so we definitely still pay for him. As far as we are concerned, his number one priority right now is getting an education, not worrying about saving for a vacation.
That said, I don't think this is a question with a definitive answer (I voted "other"). It would completely depend on the situation. Our family prioritizes travel and have never minded spending the money to do so. I think one of the greatest gifts we've given our son over the years is introducing him to all different types of travel to experience many different places and cultures. But often those trips were pretty expensive - definitely more than most people just starting out in the work place could easily afford. Once he graduates and gets a full time job, if we planned a vacation for the three of us that was out of his financial comfort zone, of course we would help him out as long as we could comfortably afford it. I'm sure he would contribute here and there to the costs as best he could, but it certainly wouldn't be something I'd be worrying about.
Our son is a junior in college, so we definitely still pay for him. As far as we are concerned, his number one priority right now is getting an education, not worrying about saving for a vacation.
That said, I don't think this is a question with a definitive answer (I voted "other"). It would completely depend on the situation. Our family prioritizes travel and have never minded spending the money to do so. I think one of the greatest gifts we've given our son over the years is introducing him to all different types of travel to experience many different places and cultures. But often those trips were pretty expensive - definitely more than most people just starting out in the work place could easily afford. Once he graduates and gets a full time job, if we planned a vacation for the three of us that was out of his financial comfort zone, of course we would help him out as long as we could comfortably afford it. I'm sure he would contribute here and there to the costs as best he could, but it certainly wouldn't be something I'd be worrying about.
I feel the same way about vacations. To be honest I can't wait until they have part time jobs to pay for all their electronics.
My 18 yr old DD loved doing DCL with us this summer--she was able to go to the adult classes--'anyone can cook', and napkin folding, as well as going to the adult entertainment in the lounges with us in the evenings. DD14 spent that time in Vibe with friends she'd made.I guess what makes it a difficult decision for me is that I foresee many more years traveling with my youngest but not necessarily with my oldest. I had thought this coming PC trip would be the last. I do want her to travel with me but I also want her to learn to be responsible. I'm also not sure how much fun she'll have once she is in that in between 18-20 age.
I think to help make your decision you need to first figure out can you pay for her portion of the cruise without affecting your financial position.Trying to decide if I'm going to pay for my oldest daughter's cruise in 2020. She's going to be taking a gap year and working part time. I'm torn. I want to, but money doesn't grow on trees in our house. Curious what other people do/think.
You know...when my mom (70 and I am 45) vacations with us (WDW, Hilton Head or cruise) we pay her way. She has the money but she likely would not offer to go with us in the first place so I invite her and take care of costs (she'll pay for some of the meals on the trips). But she hasn't taken us anywhere. Last vacation my parents paid for (took me on) was probably to Bush Gardens when I was like 14. My brother is 5 years older so once he went off to college the trips became 'couple only' after that. And my dad died when my kids were babies so we never had the chance to do a family trip. We, my DH and I, do them and bring my mom. My bro, not married and no kids, is a 'different' type and has no interest in mainstream vacations like WDW or cruising or beach trips.
So we can't cover vacations expenses for 3 generations every time. When we can, we do. It would be nice if our parents treated. My mom booked the Allure of the Seas as a solo passenger (so she had to pay double for cabin...as if a 2nd pax). I asked her if I could take that 2nd spot since she was paying for it regardless if another person went or not. She was like 'I don't think so'. Nice!
What??? Speechless. You paid for her trips and then she says no when it costs her nothing for younto join?You know...when my mom (70 and I am 45) vacations with us (WDW, Hilton Head or cruise) we pay her way. She has the money but she likely would not offer to go with us in the first place so I invite her and take care of costs (she'll pay for some of the meals on the trips). But she hasn't taken us anywhere. Last vacation my parents paid for (took me on) was probably to Bush Gardens when I was like 14. My brother is 5 years older so once he went off to college the trips became 'couple only' after that. And my dad died when my kids were babies so we never had the chance to do a family trip. We, my DH and I, do them and bring my mom. My bro, not married and no kids, is a 'different' type and has no interest in mainstream vacations like WDW or cruising or beach trips.
So we can't cover vacations expenses for 3 generations every time. When we can, we do. It would be nice if our parents treated. My mom booked the Allure of the Seas as a solo passenger (so she had to pay double for cabin...as if a 2nd pax). I asked her if I could take that 2nd spot since she was paying for it regardless if another person went or not. She was like 'I don't think so'. Nice!
She already went and had an ex boyfriend (who is and ex because she broke it off) join her so he paid for his half. Wasn't super comfortable, she said...being they were EXs. Seems it would have been better to take me. I couldn't have gone anyway...had stuff going on. But was a tad put off that she didn't offer to bring me.What??? Speechless. You paid for her trips and then she says no when it costs her nothing for younto join?
Maybe she wants to be alone ??? Or has a male conpanion joining her??