Why is it, something good can't happen without something bad happening too?
DF and I have been super lucky with everything to do with the wedding...except when it comes to our guests!
The drama first started a while ago when DFs family said they weren't coming!
They wanted us to change the month to October, for a number of reasons, all of which suited them more than anyone else and needless to say I didn't want to do this, but it's DFs family and I had to think, would I get married without my family? DF and I sat down and talked about it and the options were 1, delay the wedding until Oct 2011, 2, have the wedding in the UK or 3, stick with the original plan and go without his family. It didn't take DF long to decide to stick with the original plan (big sigh of relief from me!) DF and his older brother had been emailing back and fourth about it, neither backing down.
I didn't see why we had to change our plans for other people, you know? At this same time my sister and her hubby were having money troubles and mentioned delaying the wedding until May 2011, it was an idea, but we refused in the end. I told everyone in 2007 we were getting married in Disney in March 2011 so as far as I was concerned everyone had had more than enough time to start saving!
We had to go round to DFs parents house for dinner one night and tell them we weren't delaying the wedding. It went ok, but they still didnt change their mind. They weren't prepared to back down on anything. They wanted to go for 3 weeks, they wanted to fly with Virgin so they could check in at DTD before the flight home and they wanted to stay at a particualr hotel on the I Drive. I can kind of understand them wanting to make sure they got everything they wanted as it's their holiday too but I just couldn't help thinking they should put their sons wedding first!
It didn't take long for my sister to confirm they were coming (thanks to my parents paying for not only the villa for all of us but also paying for the 2 kids flights aswell and not to mention the amount of overtime her hubby was doing to get some extra money) For a good few months we planned the wedding as if DFs family weren't going to be there and then one day, they decided they were going to come!
They were only going to come for 1 week, but they were going to be there to see their son get married and I was so happy to see DF so happy
Then just a few short weeks after they booked, DFs dad died suddenly. It was awful and very unexpected! His family are all doing really well and are now looking at maybe coming for 10 days, if money allows.
So just when things with his family start to look up, we find out neither the BM or MOH have any money saved up!!
We have just over 4 months until we get married. As far as I'm concerned everyone should be booked by now!! Only the families have booked so far but one of our friends and his wife and kids will be booking at the end of the month so that's good, BUT we're still waiting for BM, MOH and photographer! And not only is it driving me crazy that no one seems to be taking it seriously but I'm getting seriously worried that maybe they aren't going to come! Am I being totally irrational and blowing this all out of proportion?!
My MOH sent me a message on FB yesterday to tell me her parents couldn't help her out and she was either going to borrow the money from her ex (which is a very generous offer from him) or get a loan (I know, a loan! I don't want her to get herself into debt for our wedding!) now, I feel bad about this, but I told her I needed confirmation that she had booked her flight by December 1st as we need to pay Disney December 8th. That's not strictly true. But if she isnt going to come I'll need to find a new MOH (I'll most likely ask my sister) but then I'll need time to go and find my sister a dress and everything! I know I can make changes up till quite late but I dont want to. I want to know that it's all sorted you know?
DF is going to let his BM know the same thing. It sounds like he's also going to ask his parents to help him out. Fingers crossed they can!
We're also waiting to hear on a friend and his GF. Our friend Jay works with our photogrpaher and BM for our BM's dad. Our photographer and BM have already got the time booked off work but Jay is having trouble. His boss apparently doesn't like him too much and is giving him a hard time about having the time off. He only wants 5 days. Personally I cant see the issue but it's not my decision I guess! Jay should find out some time in November so fingers crossed it's all good for him and his GF otherwise there's even more people to take off the list!
Well, thats my rant over! Sorry it's a bit long I just had to get it out!!