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[yourgypsy]

Oh, man! I would totally be having a few meltdowns. It just makes sense to have the stag party and your party on the same day. I kinda want to smack the best man upside the head. (If I could transport myself to CT, I totally would. I've got secret ninja skills, but alas, they don't let me travel ) Is there any hope of Josh talking to him and asking what's up with the date change? Maybe say that you guys (or even just Josh) have plans on the 21st?

And, really, who complains about not being invited, only to say they can't afford to go anyways? Lame!

You're not being a bridezilla. It's stressful - it's a lot of money, we're not exactly an hour's drive away from FL, and there's a lot going on.

 

[paigeturner]

I'm slowly catching up and going through your PJ and am so mad at myself for getting so behind! Things have just been crazy! But please, I need to comment.....YOUR DRESS IS A-MAZING!!!!!! I am in love with it! It is absolutely beautiful on you! And your wedding is so close now, all of the drama will be over soon and you'll be able to enjoy your day!

 

[ladyemz]

You look beautiful in your dress Tricia, stunning!

Sorry to hear about the stresses but you are so close to your magical day now, don't let this ruin the plannign experience for you and the exciting lead up! You are definately not a bridezilla.

 

[tric8783]

This is the "glamorous" part of planning a wedding. I am sorry you have to deal with this. Hopefully it will get better and easier as the wedding gets closer.

I'm so sorry everything is so stressfull right now. At least you're only 2 months away! Don't feel like a bridezilla. I would TOTALLY feel the exact same way if plans were getting changed on me. In my mind, EVERYTHING wedding related should be run by the bride first, including date changes!!! If there's nothing you can do about it just do your best to brush it off and know that in the end you are going to have an amazing time regardless. When all is said and done you probably won't even think about this. You're getting SO close! I am so excited for you! Everything will be ok

Oh, man! I would totally be having a few meltdowns. It just makes sense to have the stag party and your party on the same day. I kinda want to smack the best man upside the head. (If I could transport myself to CT, I totally would. I've got secret ninja skills, but alas, they don't let me travel ) Is there any hope of Josh talking to him and asking what's up with the date change? Maybe say that you guys (or even just Josh) have plans on the 21st?

And, really, who complains about not being invited, only to say they can't afford to go anyways? Lame!

You're not being a bridezilla. It's stressful - it's a lot of money, we're not exactly an hour's drive away from FL, and there's a lot going on.

I'm slowly catching up and going through your PJ and am so mad at myself for getting so behind! Things have just been crazy! But please, I need to comment.....YOUR DRESS IS A-MAZING!!!!!! I am in love with it! It is absolutely beautiful on you! And your wedding is so close now, all of the drama will be over soon and you'll be able to enjoy your day!

You look beautiful in your dress Tricia, stunning!

Sorry to hear about the stresses but you are so close to your magical day now, don't let this ruin the plannign experience for you and the exciting lead up! You are definately not a bridezilla.

Thanks girls! I did calm myself down yesterday after I posted... it's totally fine our parties aren't the same weekend, DF was super supportive when I took off to Boston and left him home with no plans, so I really can't be crazy about it. I'm excited for the shower and seeing everyone before we head to Disney, and of course want him to have a good time and guys night, so I'm making myself get over it!

However, yesterday I called my brother on my way home from work to check in with him, he is dating someone new and pretty serious about her, so I had emailed him asking if she was coming, (she has a son who's 3) if the son was coming, etc, because I need to know for my #s, and he hasn't responded. So I called him to ask if they got the invitation and see if the son was coming. To my surprise, he hits me with "I don't think I'm going to make it to FL at all"................................................................
riiiight. He owns a pretty successful landscape design/construction company (if we're friends on FB and you checked out my house progress, his company did our paver walkway), so he told me May is the busiest month of the year and it's a bad time to have a wedding, blah blah blah. I said, we've been dating for 7 years and this is the only time we're gonna do this. I'm sure you can make it work for two days, the world is not going to end without you. He wasn't budging and was getting me more upset telling me stupid excuses as to why I should have had MY wedding in a different month (ie in the dead of winter when business is slow) so that he could come. UGHHHH. I just told him I had to go, hung up and started balling (yes while driving on the highway). I called DF, no answer... called my mom, no answer... tried my sister, no answer.. ughhh. Got home and was greeted by Goonie at the door and just laid with him and had a good cry. I emailed my mom at like 7am telling her what's up... we'll see how this works... ugh, seriously. If it's not one thing, it's another. 59 days!!

 

[LuvLuvLuv]

First of all... you're dress is great, and you look great in it!!

Second--Last minute drama I'm sorry girl! I really hope your brother can go!! As for the unexpected wannabe additions... I hate that it's putting you in an uncomfortable spot. Every person is money. A chair, a sash on the chair, a favor, a meal, etc etc etc etc.

You'll get it all figured out. For now, breathe, have a cup of tea, and a hot bubble bath. Not much time left, and what is left will fly! I looked at my suitcases the other day thinking that I needed to get started I'm ready to go now!!!

 

[tinydancr06]

Ugh! I've had brother drama too and it's just not ok. He should make provisions for your day, not the other way around. If you based your scheduling around every single person's work schedule you would never be able to have your wedding. I'm sure it will all work out, maybe with a little dose of guilt from mom?

 

[tric8783]

First of all... you're dress is great, and you look great in it!!

Second--Last minute drama I'm sorry girl! I really hope your brother can go!! As for the unexpected wannabe additions... I hate that it's putting you in an uncomfortable spot. Every person is money. A chair, a sash on the chair, a favor, a meal, etc etc etc etc.

You'll get it all figured out. For now, breathe, have a cup of tea, and a hot bubble bath. Not much time left, and what is left will fly! I looked at my suitcases the other day thinking that I needed to get started I'm ready to go now!!!

Thank you! Yes, you are so right! Every person that replies no gets me excited... lol every person that replies yes, I'm like, "what are they eating???" hahahaha DF thinks I am crazy, but you're right every thing adds up, little by little! Are you still coming down in May?! So fun! 55 days for me!

Ugh! I've had brother drama too and it's just not ok. He should make provisions for your day, not the other way around. If you based your scheduling around every single person's work schedule you would never be able to have your wedding. I'm sure it will all work out, maybe with a little dose of guilt from mom?

I agree, but I'm starting to get over it. He did joke around when we said we were going to get married in April or May since that is his "busy season" and he likely couldn't leave the state... but I never thought he'd be serious. My sister got married on the same day 5 yrs ago, and my brother worked the morning of her wedding and left early to continue working. He was kind of a pain all day, complaining how long things were taking and being miserable he was there. He looks crazy in some of the pictures because you can tell on his face he was just wanting to leave. The more I talk to my sister about it, I'm becoming okay with him not coming. It definitely upsets me that he can't make time for my one and only wedding, but at the same time, if I drag him there kicking and screaming, I don't want him complaining and being a nuissance the entire time. (Yes he is also 35 years old.. not like he's 15 ) And again like Deena said - 2 more NO's added to the pile if he doesn't come (him and his new gf).

Slowly but surely I will allow less and less to bother me. 59 days til our wedding and 55 until we fly down to Disney!! AND 61 til we go to Hawaii!!!

 

[LuvLuvLuv]

Thank you! Yes, you are so right! Every person that replies no gets me excited... lol every person that replies yes, I'm like, "what are they eating???" hahahaha DF thinks I am crazy, but you're right every thing adds up, little by little! Are you still coming down in May?! So fun! 55 days for me!

Yep!! We'll be there May 3-9! We should be done at my job on May 1 (my bday), then May 2 I will pack everything and we'll head to PA after DH gets off work. Fly from Pittsburgh on the 3rd (family is watching the doggy again because everyone got mad at me when I booked a kennel) and be in a ROYAL ROOM by lunch time!! I'm pretty excited to see them!!

 

[CDsSleepingBeauty]

Morgan: Yes, I am going to keep it down on the beach. I am thinking about trashing my dress after the reception but haven't decided yet! I honestly did not remember the train being as long as it is, maybe with hemming it will be less. I really liked it originally because it didn't have a long train. I could barely get around that little dressing room with the train it has, hahaha I kept stepping on myself (though it's clearly also way too long so I'm sure that didn't help. lol)

I think a TTD photo shoot would be fun! Part of me wants to do one, but I just don't think I could go through with it. Even though I knew the Cinderella dress had a train, it seemed a lot longer when my actual dress came in. The only thing I'm a little worried about is dragging a bunch of sand as I walk down the beach.

 

[Jilian]

Wow, you're getting so close! I started my mickey head countdown sometime around 50ish days and it flew by.

Sorry to hear about the drama. I get so annoyed when people get indignant about not being invited. Newsflash: weddings are expensive people!

Can you talk to your mom about your brother? Will she step in and knock some sense into his head? My H's brother wasn't gonna go to our VR (granted it is a VR and not a wedding) for financial reasons and his mom jumped right in and was like "Nope! You're going if I have to come drag you there myself". I hope he sees the light. I agree that 2 days isn't gonna kill him.

Bummer about the stag plans changing too. Could you use the money from that for honeymoon spending money instead? BTW: how does one make money on a stag party? Do tell...

 

[2dogmom]

So sorry to hear about your brother, but it is probably for the best so you aren't hearing him complain. His loss, not yours.

 

[tric8783]

Yep!! We'll be there May 3-9! We should be done at my job on May 1 (my bday), then May 2 I will pack everything and we'll head to PA after DH gets off work. Fly from Pittsburgh on the 3rd (family is watching the doggy again because everyone got mad at me when I booked a kennel) and be in a ROYAL ROOM by lunch time!! I'm pretty excited to see them!!

Yay!! Sounds like a plan to me! We are still not sure what we're doing with Goonie for Fri-Sat, part of Sunday. My dad is coming down Fri-Sun only, so he can stay with him the rest of the time, but I'm hoping someone around us isn't coming to the wedding so they can watch him. Royal room! I want to see pictures of this!!

I think a TTD photo shoot would be fun! Part of me wants to do one, but I just don't think I could go through with it. Even though I knew the Cinderella dress had a train, it seemed a lot longer when my actual dress came in. The only thing I'm a little worried about is dragging a bunch of sand as I walk down the beach.

That is my struggle... hahaha Will I be able to really do it or not?? I did give up on the MK shoot, we both drink and I don't want to be puking in the MK at 7AM. Sooo, don't need to "save" my dress for that now! We're having a phone meeting with our photographers on Sunday, I'll run it by them and see if they think we can do it! Yeah, I am sure I'll be dragging some sand too, but hey, we're the bride, we can do that!!

Wow, you're getting so close! I started my mickey head countdown sometime around 50ish days and it flew by.

Sorry to hear about the drama. I get so annoyed when people get indignant about not being invited. Newsflash: weddings are expensive people!

Can you talk to your mom about your brother? Will she step in and knock some sense into his head? My H's brother wasn't gonna go to our VR (granted it is a VR and not a wedding) for financial reasons and his mom jumped right in and was like "Nope! You're going if I have to come drag you there myself". I hope he sees the light. I agree that 2 days isn't gonna kill him.

Bummer about the stag plans changing too. Could you use the money from that for honeymoon spending money instead? BTW: how does one make money on a stag party? Do tell...

You're right, time is really starting to fly! and exactly on the newsflash. Almost everyone coming is already married, has been to mutliple weddings or thrown one themselves, IDK why theyre deciding to go buckwild for ours. lol
I did talk to my mom, she unfortunately says he is very stressed with the business and didn't really strongly object to him not coming. It's really irritating but since he's the first born, he's like the golden child and can do no wrong. I've known this all my life, so in the end... if he doesn't come, so be it. I'm not going to stress over making him come if he doesnt want to be there.

Heck yes, make money at the stag!! lol Josh has thrown one twice himself (for each of his two best men when they got married) and made some good funds. Obviously they sell tickets to people for the stag- about $20-30/ticket, they get a bunch of food and set up casino type games, then take all the money from the games and etc people play too, 50/50 raffles, etc. He has a nice little guys night and we get some extra $$!

So sorry to hear about your brother, but it is probably for the best so you aren't hearing him complain. His loss, not yours.

Like you said, it's probably best if he's going to be annoying about it. I think in my heart of hearts I'm not okay with it, but I'm trying to tell myself I am just so it doesnt bother me as much!

 

[tric8783]

I bought some shoes!! I have been really wanting to spring for some designer shoes, but I am dealing with the reality currently of all the stuff I need to still do/buy. Sooo I bought these with the same heel height as the other ones I want so that I can get my alterations started, and if I can swing the other ones, I'll return these and buy the other ones quick. I really like these though, I think they are simple but pretty and go with the dress! Great news is that they already shipped! Whoo hoo!

My nephew's ring bearer suit came in too, along with his suspenders and tie- he is so adorable in it I can't stand it!!! I'm at work so PB isn't working, but I'll post the pictures tonight of him in it. He seems to really like it too! You'll see from some of the pictures he even modeled it for me...
All of the girls have received their dresses now, and they all fit!! I can't wait to see everyone in them together on the beach... eeee it gets me so excited to think about!!! 58 days!!!

I also got the envelopes for our escort cards and my sister is using them for the registry cards/shower invitations becasue for whatever reason I bought double what I needed! It ended up working out nicely though with the invitations!! My shower is planned for 4/1 at my sister's house. It's going to be very "whimsical" with paper poms for decor, a pink candy bar, and scrapbooking! I'm really excited for this too!

 

[CourtenayB]

Alright ladies. We are 2 months away and I'm freaking out!! Granted I've been freaking out, but today topped the cake. lol

1 week ago today, invitations went out. We sent 50 something and we've gotten back 12 so far. My mom got a call from a "relative" thats not blood related last week. My mom's mom passed when she was 20, so I have a "Grandma" that treated my mom like her daughter. We were close when I was little, but haven't seen her in probably 15 years or talked to her, my mom still keeps in touch, she retired down to FL (doesn't have her license and never been on a plane) so we invited her to come, as well as her son (who I don't recall ever meeting) but so that he would drive her. They called my mom to tell her they were "offended" the son's wife was not on the invitation... Really??? I'm glad this lady wants to come to my wedding, she has no IDEA who I even am, I didn't even know this son was married!!!

THEN at dinner last night, Josh's mom tells me she got a call from the family friend that Josh got my ring from/jeweler, asking where her invitation was.... Uhhh she wasn't ever on the list??? So his mom said she didn't know what to tell her, and told her she wasn't sure if the invites went out yet. She then proceeded to tell me she is a good family friend and really should be invited, but that she doesn't have the money to come. Why would she be looking for her invitation if she didn't have the money to come, is she in a hurry to reply no?? Josh told me he'd talk to his mom and not to send one to her just yet. We are trying to make our numbers SMALLER not BIGGER.... our parents have both contributed all they are giving and now the rest is on us...don't try to add people now that we're paying. ughhh

His best man also told my sister his stag was going be on 3/31. I strategically wanted my shower to be the same weekend so that I would be occupied, and the stag before our 30 day mark so that we could use the money raised at the stag towards the wedding. Yesterday I worked on the inserts for the invitations, labels etc with my sister and the invitations themselves should be coming today to her house. I get an email this morning that the best man sent out to like 60 people to "spread the word" that his stag is 4/21.... uhhh what happened to 3/31???? Needless to say I don't want to be a B about it, but I am freaking out. A. I told all my girlfriends to bring their boyfriends and husbands taht weekend so they could go to the stag while the girls prepped for the shower, B. Now we can't use those funds towards our final payment, and C. WTFFFFFFFFFFFFFFF

My Monday is off to a very bad start. I don't want to be bratty or bride-zilla-y, I just had visions for my wedding events and I feel like they're all slowly drifting farther and farther away, and out of my grasp to bring back. Cue my serious anxiety attack. I totally understand how people go crazy now and don't want anyone to talk to them or ask them questions leading up to the wedding... I get it. I never thought I'd be "one of those" but I'm really hitting my limit... vent over. hopefully tomorrow will be a better day, because we'll be under 2 months to go!!

Listen doll...we all become "one of those" when it comes to the wedding. It just can't be helped. And that's ok. You have every right to be stressed and annoyed. I think it is so extremely rude for people to invite themslves or even mention it. That is bad etiquette. You don't by any means ask someone why you aren't invited. Or if you will be. And don't be offended when someone else's wedding doesn't go by your rules....Tric, it's your wedding and don't let anybody tell you what to do that you are against. Taking good advice is one thing. But you know that already and I know you will hang in there and be ok. When the wedding rolls around you will be on cloud 9 .

As for the best man changing the plans, it's no biggie. Although I 100% get your point. DF and I were trying to plan together and go the same place b/c our friends are mostly mutual and are married...this would make it easier on everyone. But the minute the best man and one of the groomsmen opened their mouth, all plans we had discussed were out the window. And you know, you can't really say much b/c it's his bachelor/stag party and it's his choice what to do. Just have fun at your party and do you own thing. For whatever ridiculous reason, and this is just my opinion, but the groomsmen, especially the one's who are single, really seem to take things a bit far and make them crazy when it comes to the b/stag party. It's like anything the future wife says must be fought against and done in the opposite way. But this may just be my experience and my own demons coming out lol.

And my last rant is for your brother...if he is going to be a weenie head and complain about taking time off for work or be annoying and stress you out, bettert hat he doesn't come. In a perfect world our brothers would be ecstatic and more than happy to take time to be there but that just isn't the case in this situation. Some people are really weird about that stuff. I mean he has a business and he can take the time, there's really no excuse as to why he can't, and I fully support your arguement. Tell him he's a big butthole and leave it at that. What else can you do? Oh and I hope the butthole comment does not offend you....I know he is your brother.

Aside from all of this...Just keep in mind it's all going to work out. You will be marrying your prince charming and all will be good at the end of that wedding day. In the meantime, just go to Goonie b/c he's there to help you out when you need helping

 

[yourgypsy]

58 days? 58 days!

Yay shoes!

I'm looking forward to the pics of your nephew. Little kids dressed up are just adorable. And suspenders, too!

 

[DoomBuggy0922]

Gah! I wanna beat your brother's butt. That's just not right, and it's not like you're just SPRINGING this wedding on him, you know?!?! I'm sorry, sweetie. <3

But I like your shoes! And I'm excited for your whimsical shower.

 

[tric8783]

Listen doll...we all become "one of those" when it comes to the wedding. It just can't be helped. And that's ok. You have every right to be stressed and annoyed. I think it is so extremely rude for people to invite themslves or even mention it. That is bad etiquette. You don't by any means ask someone why you aren't invited. Or if you will be. And don't be offended when someone else's wedding doesn't go by your rules....Tric, it's your wedding and don't let anybody tell you what to do that you are against. Taking good advice is one thing. But you know that already and I know you will hang in there and be ok. When the wedding rolls around you will be on cloud 9 .

As for the best man changing the plans, it's no biggie. Although I 100% get your point. DF and I were trying to plan together and go the same place b/c our friends are mostly mutual and are married...this would make it easier on everyone. But the minute the best man and one of the groomsmen opened their mouth, all plans we had discussed were out the window. And you know, you can't really say much b/c it's his bachelor/stag party and it's his choice what to do. Just have fun at your party and do you own thing. For whatever ridiculous reason, and this is just my opinion, but the groomsmen, especially the one's who are single, really seem to take things a bit far and make them crazy when it comes to the b/stag party. It's like anything the future wife says must be fought against and done in the opposite way. But this may just be my experience and my own demons coming out lol.

And my last rant is for your brother...if he is going to be a weenie head and complain about taking time off for work or be annoying and stress you out, bettert hat he doesn't come. In a perfect world our brothers would be ecstatic and more than happy to take time to be there but that just isn't the case in this situation. Some people are really weird about that stuff. I mean he has a business and he can take the time, there's really no excuse as to why he can't, and I fully support your arguement. Tell him he's a big butthole and leave it at that. What else can you do? Oh and I hope the butthole comment does not offend you....I know he is your brother.

Aside from all of this...Just keep in mind it's all going to work out. You will be marrying your prince charming and all will be good at the end of that wedding day. In the meantime, just go to Goonie b/c he's there to help you out when you need helping

Thanks love! You're right- the boys do typically do the OPPOSITE of what we ask, especially with the stag. ughhh. I've been trying to keep my mouth shut and pretend I don't care what they're doing so I don't push them to do anything crazy. lol good theory right??? Not like anything too crazy will happen with our dad's there!!

Definitely not offended at all on the comments about my bro, I completely agree. I think it's totally BOGUS but currently with the clock ticking I don't have the time or energy to fight it. lol I came home tonight and went for a run with Goonie! So glad I talked Josh into finally letting me get a dog- our lives were forever changed the day we met him, never mind brought him home!

58 days? 58 days!

Yay shoes!

I'm looking forward to the pics of your nephew. Little kids dressed up are just adorable. And suspenders, too!

Pics are coming next!!! No shoes at my doorstep yet! The shipping details say they should be here tomorrow- yay!

Gah! I wanna beat your brother's butt. That's just not right, and it's not like you're just SPRINGING this wedding on him, you know?!?! I'm sorry, sweetie. <3

But I like your shoes! And I'm excited for your whimsical shower.

hahaha ME TOO!!!! That's exactly what I told him.... we've been dating for 7 years, talking about getting married for awhile and clearly had the exact date for almost 9 months... hellooooooooo. ugh!!

 

[tric8783]

ooooops double post! removing one of them!

 

[tric8783]

As promised, here are pics of my nephew and ringbearer, Tyler Joseph
(there are like 10 because i couldnt choose.. I am a proud auntie what can I say bahaha)

getting him in it...

full suit (clearly needs a little fitting)

Tyler, turn to the side....

Ok turn around...

Work it...

<3 too cute! <3

about to pull the tie off... oops

too funny!

We also went shopping... my sister had some things to get with coupons she had at Babies R Us, and we found this adorable Fedora I told her she HAD to get for him to bring to FL... rehearsal perhaps?? lol

AAAAAAAAAAND my sister ordered these "Disney Love Quotes" picks from Etsy for my shower... we're not going totally Disney but small touches, like these picks, will be placed randomly

 

[tinydancr06]

Wow, what a cutie! He will make such a handsome ring bearer! I definitely think the fedora should make an appearance