It's not what someone did, it's how you choose to react to it.
That was a big one for my father, as well. When you give your word, that should mean something. and that you do the right thing even when no one is watching.Doing the right thing can be tough, but integrity and honesty matter. It’s who you are at the end of the day.
This is one I try to impart to my own kids. It's amazing how, when you give, good comes back to you.What I learned by watching my parents is that you get what you give.
I would probably drive you crazy, then! I plan, to a degree, but I also have a spontaneous, “let’s see how it goes”, “how ’bout we do this today“ streak, lol. My DH is more like you, but he‘s also pretty flexible. My family didn’t have a lot of “structure” growing up; DH’s did, more like yours. I suppose the family we’ve made has a combination of both, with both kids being more like DH when it comes to planning, especially in their school and work lives. During down time and things like vacations, they are more spontaneous. Holidays mirror the same by branch of the family (and work schedules). Come to think of it, I’ve never really given it this much thought before, lol.Rigid planning. Growing you planned things efficiently, you showed up on time or early, you made plans with someone you keep them you don't ditch them for something better, when it comes to errands my mom was really big on a circle type thing basically just meant planning your errands so you weren't criss-crossing all town and I still do that.
As I got older and I am still actively doing it learning to not be so rigid. I've missed out on some fun things because no I had keep this plan and it was something that could have easily moved, when we do things with my husband's family they are not quite the opposite but certainly don't do the planning I do.
We went and go doughnuts a few weeks back and the place did drive through only due to covid and I'm like "so what's the plan, we going to a park or something to sit and eat together, what time are we meeting your sister (who was joining us in her own car), etc." and my husband was like "IDK"...grrr it irked me to no end to not know. Then in the car my mother-in-law says "well I found this park about 10 mins from the place" well whew at least her and I were thinking the same about the park. But then we had to rope in the sister-in-law and tell her the details of the place, she can't find it so she's calling us to give her directions, no one has been to the park before, etc. Well in the end all was good we found it but yeah that sort of on the fly planning still gets to me, wish it didn't though I've loosened up a lot over the years. But it's come in handy when I think of some part of a get together and my husband never would have thought about it.
On the other hand when it comes to looking at Christmas and Holiday displays around the area I'm your gal I got that thing planned in a circle with google maps in the most efficient way
My husband and I tend to do well with each other and flexibility, involving other people and well that's where I get goingI would probably drive you crazy, then! I plan, to a degree, but I also have a spontaneous, “let’s see how it goes”, “how ’bout we do this today“ streak, lol. My DH is more like you, but he‘s also pretty flexible. My family didn’t have a lot of “structure” growing up; DH’s did, more like yours. I suppose the family we’ve made has a combination of both, with both kids being more like DH when it comes to planning, especially in their school and work lives. During down time and things like vacations, they are more spontaneous. Holidays mirror the same by branch of the family (and work schedules). Come to think of it, I’ve never really given it this much thought before, lol.
And another thing that was “caught more than taught” was to never lend, only give when it came to money. Give what you can afford with an open heart and no strings attached but loans between family or friends always - always alter the relationship in some way.Be generous when you can, of both time and money...