PlainJane
<font color=teal>It was wonderful both times<br><f
- Joined
- Dec 25, 2005
I wouldn’t think it wise to start the process of IVF past the mid-40s. Though, I couldn’t in good conscience tell a woman to not try to implant already frozen embryos past that age (not that I make a habit of telling women any of the above).
There really is no age that won’t surprise/upset people, though. I was 26 and married and some people still made comments about how young I was to be having a baby. Complications happen at all ages. I was a hypermesis gradivium sufferer even having my baby before “advanced maternal age.” Miscarriages happen at all ages, I’ve never had one, but I have friends of similar ages that have. Being in your 20s doesn’t make a woman immune to pregnancy complications.
According to doctors, I shouldn’t exist. I was conceived naturally after 10 years of infertility (which placed my mother at “advanced maternal age”). After infertility treatments they were told they would never conceive. My parents are older, and there are downsides to this, but none that outweighs wanting them as my parents.
I can see being concerned about possible complications due to past complications, but I can’t understand not being happy especially because of a woman’s age or because she has too many already. She knows her medical history, lived it, and I’m sure knows the risks of continuing to try to conceive more children.
Personally, I’m much more concerned about possible future occurrences of Hypermesis Gradvium than I am about having a child past a certain age. When I was younger I thought I’d want to be done at 30, but now I just doubt I would intentionally try to get pregnant after having two children.
There really is no age that won’t surprise/upset people, though. I was 26 and married and some people still made comments about how young I was to be having a baby. Complications happen at all ages. I was a hypermesis gradivium sufferer even having my baby before “advanced maternal age.” Miscarriages happen at all ages, I’ve never had one, but I have friends of similar ages that have. Being in your 20s doesn’t make a woman immune to pregnancy complications.
According to doctors, I shouldn’t exist. I was conceived naturally after 10 years of infertility (which placed my mother at “advanced maternal age”). After infertility treatments they were told they would never conceive. My parents are older, and there are downsides to this, but none that outweighs wanting them as my parents.
I can see being concerned about possible complications due to past complications, but I can’t understand not being happy especially because of a woman’s age or because she has too many already. She knows her medical history, lived it, and I’m sure knows the risks of continuing to try to conceive more children.
Personally, I’m much more concerned about possible future occurrences of Hypermesis Gradvium than I am about having a child past a certain age. When I was younger I thought I’d want to be done at 30, but now I just doubt I would intentionally try to get pregnant after having two children.
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